Words To Live By #7 ‘If’ For Girls

 

Quaerite Et Invenietis  “Seek and you will find”

 

“Your vibe attracts your tribe”

 

I posted the poem ‘If’ by Rudyard Kipling on October 15, 2019. I think it is a wonderful poem. Written for his son in 1895, it offers great advice that can be used by anyone.

I came across ‘If For Girls’, a complimentary poem for Kipling’s ‘If’, by American writer J. P. McEvoy. This is a wonderful addition to this series of blogs, especially in todays world where women are becoming more empowered than ever; and it’s about time! Women and men can use this advice, so let’s celebrate the Divine Feminine.

Dedicated to my mother Sylvia Patricia, and my love, Erin.

 

“If you can hear the whispering about you

And never yield to deal in whispers, too;

If you can bravely smile when loved ones doubt you

And never doubt, in turn, what loved ones do;

If you can keep a sweet and gentle spirit

In spite of fame or fortune, rank or place,

And though you win your goal or only near it,

Can win with poise or lose with equal grace;

 

If you can meet with Unbelief, believing,

And hallow in your heart, a simple creed,

If you can meet Deception, undeceiving,

And learn to look to God for all you need;

If you can be what girls should be to mothers:

Chums in joy and comrades in distress,

And be unto others as you’d have the others

Be unto you — no more, and yet no less;

 

If you can keep within your heart the power

To say that firm, unconquerable “No,”

If you can brave a present shadowed hour

Rather than to build a future woe;

If you can love, yet not let loving master,

But keep yourself within you own self’s clasp,

And not let dreaming lead you to disaster

Nor Pity’s fascination loose you grasp;

 

If you can lock your heart on confidences

Nor ever needlessly in turn confide;

If you can put behind you all pretenses

Of mock humility or foolish pride;

If you can keep the simple, homely virtue

Of walking right with God — then have no fear

That anything in all the world can hurt you —

And — which is more — you’ll be a Woman dear.”

 

May God bless and protect you and…

May you always be

Healthy, Happy

Safe and Comfortable

 

Kelly Curtis

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Sevenfold Path Of Peace

Quaerite Et Invenietis “Seek and you will find.”

 

The Essenes were a Jewish sect that flourished from the second century B.C. to the first century A.D. They recognized the spiritual nature of the physical universe and considered that Human life can be divided into seven departments, these being: physical, mental, emotional, social, cultural, its relationship with nature and its relationship with the entire cosmos. The Sevenfold Path of Peace is based on the ancient teachings of the Essenes and explains the utilization of these powers and forces.

Here are the seven aspects of contemplation for the Sevenfold Path of Peace:

Peace with the body

We recognize the body as our sacred vehicle, created by spiritual laws of the universe and that in the body are manifested all the laws of life. The Essenes learned the healthful foods, herbs, breathing techniques, etc. that were needed to have a physical body filled with vitality. This contemplation nurtures the power of love and acceptance for our physical expression. It is through our spiritual relationship with our bodies that the ability to heal is mastered.

Peace with the Mind

This contemplation, in regards to the Sevenfold Path of Peace, is thought of as a higher force – far more powerful than either feeling or action, because it is the creator of both. It is important to understand the power of the mind as a tool of manifestation. It is what empowers us to be co-creators with Spirit. It is through the use of the mind that we direct the flow of energy through the choices we make about our thoughts.

Peace with Emotions/Family

As a reflection of our love towards one another, this contemplation governs our relationships with those who are in our close environment and our spiritual families. Through this contemplation, we realize how our families are mirrors in learning more about our feeling physical bodies and ourselves. The Essenes knew that the feeling body is a most influential instrument for the creation of physical vitality, emotional freedom and spiritual happiness.

Peace with Community

A powerful step in the sevenfold path, this contemplation refers to harmony between groups of people. The Essenes teach that each of us journeys an exceptional path in helping human evolution, and it is only when we follow our own unique gifts that joy and peace will occur on the planet.

Peace with Wisdom of the Ancients/Culture

In this contemplation, we make use of the gifts of the masters of wisdom from the past. The Essenes believed there were three pathways to discovering truth. The path of intuition followed by mystics and prophets; the path of nature – the way of the scientist; and the path of culture – exposure to the great masterpieces of literature and the arts.

This contemplation opens the door to our spiritual ancestors and their spiritual truths. Essenes considered it the responsibility of all to learn from cultural wisdom passed down through the ages and pass teachings down to the next generation as a way of contributing to the evolution of humankind.

Peace with Earth Ecology/Environment

This contemplation nurtures how we live in harmony with the Earth and the physical field of existence. It is the knowledge and understanding that our health and wealth is dependent on how we cooperate with the physical planet. As we expand a loving relationship with the Earth, the planet nurtures our own spiritual beings.

Peace with Spirit/Devine/God

It is with this step of the Sevenfold Path of Peace that we experience one power and one presence in our lives and in the Universe. A doorway opens in our consciousness that accesses powerful, loving guidance and support from spiritual energies.

 

The Sevenfold Path of Peace is a way of evaluating ourselves and the way we present ourselves in our world. with every thought, feeling and action we are creating and contributing. The question is are we contributing to greater peace? Am I building up and growing as a spiritual being having a physical reality?

The Sevenfold Path of Peace offers us an opportunity to become aware, awake and conscious. To live in peace is to actively participate in creating Heaven on Earth.

-from ‘The Living Center’

 

May God bless and protect you and…

May you always be

Healthy, Happy

Safe and Comfortable

 

Kelly Curtis

 

 

My Contribution to Peace

 

Quaerite Et Invenietis  “Seek and you will find”

 

I contribute to Peace when I strive to express the best of myself in my contacts with others.

I contribute to Peace when I use my intelligence and my abilities to serve the Good.

I contribute to Peace when I feel compassion toward all those who suffer.

I contribute to Peace when I rejoice over the happiness of others and pray for their well -being.

I contribute to Peace when I listen with tolerance to opinions that differ from mine or even oppose them.

I contribute to Peace when I resort to dialog rather than to force to settle any conflict.

I contribute to Peace when I respect Nature and preserve it for generations to come.

I contribute to Peace when I do not seek to impose my conception of God upon others.

I contribute to Peace when I make Peace the foundation of my ideals and philosophy.

I contribute to Peace when I look upon all as my Brothers and Sisters, regardless of race, culture, or religion.

-Rosicrucian Manuscript

 

May God bless and protect you and…

May you always be

Healthy, Happy

Safe and Comfortable

Kelly Curtis

 

 

Words To Live By #2 – “IF”

‘If’ was written by English Nobel Laureate Rudyard Kipling circa 1895, as a tribute to Leander Starr Jameson. The poem offers – in Kipling’s own words – ” counsels of perfection most easy to give.” The poem also gives fatherly advice to the poets son John.

I decided to include this poem in my series because, even though some of it may seem dated, it still offers some gems of advice to anyone, not just someone’s son.

 

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,

Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,

And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

 

If you can dream – and not make dreams your master;

If you can think – and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two imposters just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

 

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breath a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the will which says to them: “Hold on!”

 

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with Kings – nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,

And – which is more – You’ll be a man my son!

 

 

May God bless and protect you and…

May you always be

Healthy, Happy

Safe and Comfortable

 

Kelly Curtis

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Forgiveness

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

-Lewis B Smedes

 

I’m writing today about forgiveness because I feel that it is a very important attribute to have. Yet forgiveness is sometimes a hard pill to swallow, especially if the person you’re forgiving isn’t sorry, that takes strength. You have to be strong to say you’re sorry, but even stronger to forgive. After all, the weak aren’t able to forgive, forgiveness belongs to the strong. You have to have courage and strength to forgive a mistake. Remember, the first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest. As a bonus, forgiveness also brings inner peace.

It would be a shame to give up on someone just because they made a mistake. We expect God to forgive us, so we should be able to forgive those that hurt us.

I know it’s very hard to forgive sometimes. It kind of feels like you’re rewarding them for what they’ve done. But really, you’re giving them and yourself a gift. It’s not about them getting away with something. When you forgive, you let go of the negative energy that ties you to them. So, if someone stabs you in the back, don’t pull the knife out and use it on them – Forgive.

Someone said that forgiveness is like crossing monkey bars, at some point you have to let go to move forward. I know that forgiveness won’t change my past, but I’m pretty sure it will improve my future. Just remember, we always have three powerful resources available to us: Prayer, love, and forgiveness.

In talking about forgiveness, Bryant H McGill, bestselling author on the subject of human potential says it nicely: “They caused the first wound, but you are causing the rest, this is what not forgiving does. They got it started, but you keep it going. Forgive and let it go, or it will eat you alive. You think they made you feel this way, but when you don’t forgive, you are the one inflicting the pain on yourself.”

According to a 2010 study, the most common unforgiven offenses are betrayals; like affairs, lying, unkept and broken promises, and unkept secrets. You have power over the way you react to wrongs perpetrated against you. Scientists call this ‘Decisional forgiveness’. It is simply you deciding which way you intend to act toward the person who wronged you. It changes the way you feel toward that person, negative emotions giving way to positive emotions. Resentment giving way to empathy, sympathy, and compassion.

The science of forgiveness is very interesting. For example; it’s known that unlike ten and eleven year olds, seven and eight year olds don’t need an apology; they look at those who have apologized and those that haven’t in the same light.

In another study, researchers in the Netherlands poled people as to a time when they either forgave, or withheld forgiveness. They were then asked to jump as high as they could. Now I think this is really cool. Those who forgave jumped highest. About 11.8 inches, while the grumps jumped just 8.5 inches. The disparity comes from the unburdening of holding a grudge.

In the animal kingdom, primates such as Bonobos, Mountain Gorillas, and Chimps often show friendly behavior such as embracing or kissing after confrontations. Goats and Hyenas show similar behavior. In fact, the only species that shows no sign of forgiveness is, drum roll please… The Domestic Cat. Who’d’ve thought?

Samereh Alinejad from Iran, had nothing but retribution on her mind toward the man who murdered her teenage son. But at the gallows, moments before the killer was to be hanged, she made the decision to pardon the man. She is now considered a hero. If Samereh can find it in her heart to forgive, we should be able to.

 

May you always be

Healthy, Happy

Safe and Comfortable

 

Kelly Curtis