Words To Live By #11 ‘After A while’


Quaerite Et Invenietis  “Seek and you will find”


“There is nothing hidden that will not be revealed”


The poem ‘After A While’ by Veronica A. Shoffstall was first published in her college yearbook in 1971. Written about relationships from a woman’s perspective, I think we can all relate to this beautiful poem.


After A While

by Veronica A. Shoffstall

“After a while you learn the subtle difference

between holding a hand and chaining a soul

And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning

and company doesn’t mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren’t contracts

and presents aren’t promises

And you begin to accept your defeats

with your head up and your eyes ahead

with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child

and you learn to build all your roads on today

because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans

and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.


After a while you learn that even sunshine burns

if you get too much.

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul

instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.


And you learn that you really can endure

that you really are strong

and that you really do have worth

And you learn and you learn

with every goodbye you learn…”


May God bless and protect you and…

May you always be

Healthy, Happy

Safe and Comfortable

Seth Kelly Curtis



18 comments on “Words To Live By #11 ‘After A while’

  1. sakshi 's poetry says:


  2. Nancy Ruegg says:

    The wisdom of experience, beautifully written. Might be something to give a teenage girl as she begins to date guys–could be a great conversation starter. Glad you shared it, Kelly!

  3. Tony Fine says:

    What a great poem. Thanks for sharing it.

  4. Yetismith says:

    Yes, I like this a lot.

  5. Very inspiring words

  6. emberbear says:

    This wonderful poem really speaks to me. Thank you.

  7. Soul fill.. beautiful and tender but full of strength..

  8. Katherine says:

    This poem is so true and seen from a total adult view.
    Thank you for sharing, Kelly, have a wonderful weekend ahead! 🙂

  9. Bhavanajagat says:

    The Three Dimensions of Interpersonal Relationships:
    After a while, I discovered the 3-dimensions of all kinds of interpersonal relationships. These are, 1. Self-Love, 2. Love of God, and 3. Love of another person. If any of these dimensions is missing, the relationship tends to fail for want of respect, trust, and commitment.

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